Note (2020-12-17 09:20)

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In the sense that our unled lives have been imagined by us, and are part of us, they are real; to know what someone isn’t—what she might have been, what she’s dreamed of being—this is to know someone intimately.

What If You Could Do It All Over? | The New Yorker